This book was popular with the therapists I work with in my group practice when we read it as one of our book club choices. The consequences of extra marital affairs or any kind of relationship betrayal is that trust is impacted. It is not only impacted, it’s often obliterated to the point where everything hinges on the way a partner responds to the betrayed person. If the person on the receiving end of the affair doesn’t feel their needs are being appropriately responded to in the rebuild stages, they often end up not recovering.
Figuring out how to help our clients rebuild trust is one of the hardest tasks we face as couples’ therapists. The truth is, we are not given a lot of tools in our training on how to do this well. This book offers some helpful observations for the betrayed partner that can help them evaluate their willingness to open up to trusting again and some concrete tools to try.
After the book club shared this book, our clinicians ended up making a worksheet to share with clients using some of the tools in this book. If you want a copy of them Mira…give me a call!!
