This book was written by a therapist who also identifies as being polyamorous. Since about 25% of our couples who we see in the group practice identify as either being in or wanting to enter a consensual nonmonogamy relationship, this book seemed like a great choice for our book club.
This book used a lot of the concepts that were presented in the book Attached( reference above) as a basis of the author’s evaluation of how attachment styles impact success in consensual nonmonogamy relationships.
The author made some good arguments and some personal observations about her experience and provided examples and reasons for her perspective. If you are interested in reading this book, I would definitely recommend you read Attached as a part one to this book. Polysecure doesn’t provide steps on entering into a poly relationship (and those should really be set up with a competent therapist who has experience with this topic) but does provide some food for thought about how to approach CNM from a perspective that may help create healthier unions.