Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide To Help You Decide Whether To Stay In Or Get Out Of Your Relationship.

Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide To Help You Decide Whether To Stay In Or Get Out Of Your Relationship.

So often clients come to see me who tell me they feel torn and pulled in two directions about whether to stay in their current relationship or end it. It’s painful to watch my clients agonize over this decision, because by the time they come to see me, they are often twisted up and so confused. Confused about what they want, what’s “ok to ask for” and often no longer trust their intuition. They often question if they are asking for “too much” from their partner. They wonder if they should just settle for what they have or break up for the potential that there is really someone “out there” who is better suited for them. This book helps clients to think about things that may help them get clear.

I had a client have one session with me and she told me about her issues happening in the relationship. She told me she was struggling to make up her mind if it was a deal breaker that they had so many differences in their core values and beliefs. She also talked about how great things were when they were feeling “on” with each other. I asked her to read this book and she returned to the next session telling me she made her decision. She said the book was just what she needed and didn’t need therapy anymore. I wish everyone would put me out of a job like this quickly! The book happened at just the right time and asked her questions that helped make things clearer.

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Dr. Dana McNeil

Dr. Dana McNeil
PsyD, LMFT

Founder of The Relationship Place
Marriage and Family Therapist CA License #99008

certified gottman therapist
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