Unfortunately, as a couples’ therapist I work with numerous clients who find themselves working through the pain and feelings of betrayal that happen when an affair has occurred in their relationship. So often the person on the receiving end wants to understand why it happened. They often feel dissatisfied with responses from their partner that sound like “I don’t know” or “I can’t tell you why.” These responses are very often true for the person who has strayed, and they themselves can’t always articulate how they found themselves doing behaviors that are not alignment with their character.
One of the main reasons I like this book is because it doesn’t beat up on the person who had the affair. The reason I like a more forgiving attitude is because the person who got cheated on, believe it or not, doesn’t necessarily want everyone in their lives to beat up on the person that hurt them. They often want to believe there is hope for the relationship to heal. They want to find something redeeming about the person they love and generally hopes there is some reason the betrayal happened that is not because they were not enough for their partner.
This book does a good job of helping validate why a person can still love and respect the person in their life, who also hurt them in a major earth-shattering way.
