Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence By Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence By Esther Perel

Many of our clients are reading Esther Perel’s books and listening to her podcast, so it makes sense that we would choose one of her most popular relationship essays to read for our book club. Whenever I discuss Esther Perel with clients and other therapists, I get the feeling that people either love her philosophy or just don’t quite vibe with her. A lot of that sense of liking or feeling lukewarm about her work has got to be her use of flourishing language and the style in which she writes. 

Her books are filled with passionate phrasing and adamantly stated opinions. You are somewhat forced to get on board with her thinking or you finish her books wondering if you are somehow not quite hip enough or evolved enough in your views about relationships. Either way, this book has some interesting arguments and theories about the viability of monogamy in the modern world. There were many concepts in this book that really got the club buzzing. To me anything that stirs up discussion, makes a book worth reading.

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Dr. Dana McNeil

Dr. Dana McNeil
PsyD, LMFT

Founder of The Relationship Place
Marriage and Family Therapist CA License #99008

certified gottman therapist
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