Mira Kirshenbaum

When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships.

Unfortunately, as a couples’ therapist I work with numerous clients who find themselves working through the pain and feelings of betrayal that happen when an affair has occurred in their relationship. So often the person on the receiving end wants to understand why it happened. ...

I Love You, But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship.

This book was popular with the therapists I work with in my group practice when we read it as one of our book club choices. The consequences of extra marital affairs or any kind of relationship betrayal is that trust is impacted. It is not only impacted, it’s often obliterated ...

Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide To Help You Decide Whether To Stay In Or Get Out Of Your Relationship.

So often clients come to see me who tell me they feel torn and pulled in two directions about whether to stay in their current relationship or end it. It’s painful to watch my clients agonize over this decision, because by the time they come to see me, they are ...

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What I am Reading

I love reading non-fiction books that unfold like fiction and this book checks all the boxes. The author intersperses her own personal difficulties in attempting ...

You need to expect that a therapist would put a book by this globally recognized leader on this list of recommended readings. Brené Brown has ...

Some of my clients tell me they want to incorporate spirituality into their mental health journey. They tell me that therapy combined with faith is ...

This book of inspirational quotations just never stops hitting the spot just when I need something to ground me or pump me up. You may ...

I absolutely could not create a recommended book list without including the book that has most influenced my career as a couples’ therapist. Not only ...

I am grateful I read this book for so numerous reasons. The most important is that all my clients are generally in various kinds of ...

If you have any interest in understanding the principles or teachings of Buddhism, then I highly recommend anything by Pema Chödrön. I have read almost ...

Talking about sex with our clients is a BIG part of our job as couples’ therapists because a couple’s lack of sex can be a ...

Many of our clients are reading Esther Perel’s books and listening to her podcast, so it makes sense that we would choose one of her ...

This was also another book club choice written by a colleague of mine who owns a group therapy practice that specializes in affirming sex therapy. ...

The book club decided to throw in a little fiction to work as a palate cleanser for all the non-fiction we have been reading. The ...

This book was written by a therapist who also identifies as being polyamorous. Since about 25% of our couples who we see in the group ...

Many clients come to couples’ therapy wanting to talk about the difference between each partner’s attachment styles and how the differences play a role in ...

I was reading our local newspaper one day and saw an article about a San Diego based throuple who were being featured for their journey ...